Have you tried the Seafood Diet? Actually, it’s spelled “See-Food.” So many of us have tried it. You know the one. You “see food,” and you eat it.
Pause for a moment, take a deep breath, and notice how it feels when you think about allowing the new year to be a new beginning for you. And when I say you, I mean your whole being – your heart, your mind, and your body.
Lots of suggestions sound good, until it’s time to actually do them.
You might read WLS articles and think some of the ideas about how to improve your WLS program are pretty good. You might even want to try some of the ideas, but then the time comes and you realize you are not going to try them.
Whatever I ate back then, be it baked chicken, vegetables, or toast, I always ate the best part first. The most tender bite of the chicken; the tips of the asparagus; the soft, buttery center of the toast.
Having made that decision, I didn’t need to worry nearly as much about overeating, because I wasn’t ploughing through the less tasty bits to get to the most flavorful bits.
Emotional eating relieves the sadness.
It eases our distress.
It can feel really satisfying when the sadness goes away.
Here’s the problem, as you know all too well. Emotional eating can sabotage our bariatric surgery. So, while it works and it’s rational, it’s important to find other ways to help ease our emotional discomfort.
After a research project I conducted about 10 years ago, I came to understand there are stages many people who have had bariatric surgery go through.
At first, I focused on women who had surgery and grappled with regain. Their stories were both fascinating and haunting. Some had eating disorders, some were trauma survivors, some were emotional eaters, and some had one or more transfer addictions.
When I had the bowel obstruction, I knew the setback was major enough that there was potential for me to somehow self-destruct.
What I mean by self-destruct is that when I feel emotionally traumatized, I eat in a way that is harmful to me. It’s not the same as “cheating” on a diet. It’s full-blown eating whether I’m hungry or not, whether it’s good for me or not, whether it makes me feel sick or not.
Last week, one of my coaching clients shared that she had spent the holiday week baking and secretly eating some of the cookies she was making for her adult children.
The truth is life will always interrupt our routines. What we must do is plan for the interruptions.
Give yourself permission to not know what might work, to not force yourself to follow regain ‘rules,’ and to spend time being a scientist instead of a judge.
All you have to do is try something and observe the results without judgment. If it doesn’t help, try something else.
I decided to practice crying. A scary idea at the time, but my therapist had sworn to me crying wouldn’t destroy me.